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　　标题：Photos：Divorceselfiesarecatchingon，andforgoodreason
　　source：Quartz丨byOliviaGoldhill
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　　Lifeisbetterwhenyou’reonehalfofacouple，accordingtocountlessfairytaleromances，psychologicalstudies，andmotherswhoareworriedabouttheirdaughters’tickingclocks。
　　BythesameDisneyinspiredconvention，divorceisoftenseenasasignofgreatunhappinessandacrimony。NobodysaysIdowiththeintentionofonedayheadingtothedivorcecourts，andmaritalbreakdownisfatethatmostpeoplehopetoavoid。
　　Butaseriesofjoyfuldivorceselfiesshowthattheendofamarriagedoesn’thavetobeamiserableaffair。
　　AphotoofShannonNeumanandherex，Chris，grinningastheyfiledfordivorcehasbeensharedmorethan36，000timessinceitwaspostedlastweek。
　　TheNeumansaren’ttheonlycouplewhowerethrilledtountietheknot，andthereareacollectionofsmilingdivorceselfiesonInstagram。
　　Thesephotosaren’tsimplyaglibreactiontoanunfortunatesituation。Althoughstudieshavefoundthatmarriedpeoplearehappierthansinglepeople，thisdoesnotmeanthatdivorcemakespeoplesadandinfactthere’sevidencetosuggesttheopposite。
　　In2005，WarwickUniversityresearchersfoundthat，thoughtraumaticintheshortrun，divorcedcouplesgoontoreapnoticeablepsychologicalgains。Meanwhile，a2013KingstonUniversitystudyfoundthatwomeninparticulararesignificantlyhappierfollowingtheirdivorce。
　　Thisboostinhappinessmakessensetopsychologists。Inapaper，ThePsychologyofDivorce，byclinicalchildpsychologistandfamilytherapistDonaldT。SaposnekandfamilylawyerChipRose，theauthorsoutlinethemanynegativeemotionsassociatedwithdivorce，includingalienation，loneliness，despair，anger，vindictivenessandhelplessness。
　　Buttheperiodpostdivorcecanbesignificantlyhappier。Thestagefollowingthedivorceisoneofexploration，redirection，andreequilibration，theywrite。Itisatimeofmakingindependentchoices，basedonasinglelife。Ifthedivorcewassettledsuccessfully，feelingsofoptimism，selfconfidence，independence，andacceptancemayabound。
　　LisaPepper，familylawyeratOsbornesSolicitors，tellsQuartzthatwhenclientshearthattheirdivorcehasbeenfinalized，themajorityarerelieved。
　　Mostpeoplecanseethatbeinginahousewhereyou’reeitherwalkingoneggshellsorscreamingateachotherisnotgreatfortheirmentalhealth，shesaysfromLondon。
　　Pepperalsosaysthatamicabledivorces，likethoseapparentlypicturedindivorceselfies，arecommon。Aroundhalfofherclientshaveapoliterelationshipwiththeirex，whileabout25havegenuineaffectionforeachother。
　　Beingongoodtermswithanexspousehasmanybenefits。Amicableclientssaveafortuneonlawyers’fees，saysPepper，andalsocreateahealthierhomeforchildren。
　　Divorcemaynotbeafairytalehappyendingbutitcanbeapositivebeginning。Miseryisn’ttheonlyappropriateresponsetodivorce，andthereareplentyofexcoupleswhowouldappreciateacongratulatorydivorcecard。Cheerstoahappylifeapart。